Worksheet · Anxiety and stress
Separate the facts from your interpretation, test an anxious thought and find a more accurate way to see the situation.
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Something happened and your mood dropped sharply, though the reason seems small.
One thought keeps going round: “I’ve ruined everything”, “something is wrong with me”.
You want to sort out what really happened and what anxiety added on top.
How it works
What upsets us is not only the event but how we read it. A thought flashes by in a split second — “he’s unhappy with me”, “I’ll fail” — and we take it as a fact. The thought brings a feeling, and the feeling brings an action: going quiet, avoiding, making excuses.
A thought record slows this chain down. You write down what happened, what you thought and felt, then test the thought against the facts. The goal is not to think positively but more accurately. The more accurate the thought, the weaker the feeling usually is and the easier it is to decide what to do.
A thought record is a core technique of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), one of the most researched approaches in psychotherapy. It was described by Aaron Beck; the workbook “Mind Over Mood” offers a step-by-step self-help version. Meta-analyses support the efficacy of CBT, especially for anxiety disorders and stress. They tested CBT as a whole: the thought record is part of it, not a separate treatment.
A thought record is not a diagnosis and doesn’t replace treatment. If anxiety or low mood lasts for weeks or you have thoughts of death, see a specialist.
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